We have entered the holiday season and perfectionism is something that can come up now more than other times of the year, especially for perfectionists. However, you can create trust and connection without being perfect. In our last blog post we talked about the cost of perfectionism and about the fear and anxiety that...
How Do You Know When To Push Through vs. Let Go?
This question comes up a lot. And for good reason. For parents, it can come up around whether to mandate that a child follow through with something like a sports commitment. For adults, it can come up around whether to stay at a demanding job or work through issues in friendships or relationships. Those...
Are You Getting the Most You Can Out of Therapy?
Therapy is not cheap. It requires resources. Both time and money, obviously. But in order for it to be as effective as possible, it requires your energy and attention. I think therapy can benefit most people, regardless of how well or how poorly life seems to be going. Increasingly, people are coming to therapy...
An Easy Way to Raise Your Child’s Emotional Intelligence
One of the foundations of emotional intelligence is being able to identify emotions. One way kids learn about how to talk about and handle emotions is from their parents, both directly and indirectly. How you handle emotions (yours and theirs) makes a significant impact. Yes, like literally being able to name a feeling. It...
Have You Been Thinking About Starting a Meditation Practice?
It’s one of those things, like exercising and eating healthy that you know is good for you but can be hard to do consistently, right? You know meditation and mindfulness practice has a physiological impact on your body. It supports your mental health and relationships with others and yourself. And, it’s an amazing support...
5 Ways To Balance Out Fear Coming Up Around the Coronavirus
There are a few basic emotional intelligence concepts coming up that can be helpful as we navigate this territory of the Coronavirus. Let’s lay the groundwork with those. Then, we can talk about 5 helpful thoughts that we can incorporate to how we are thinking about all that is happening. First, most things are...
How Are Doing the Dishes and Dealing With Feelings Related?
Not everyone is convinced that feelings are important. I get that. If you are one of those people who is not totally convinced that feelings are that big a deal, this is for you. I explain it this way often to my clients… How hard is it for you to wash a dish? Usually...
The One Question to Ask Yourself in Overwhelming, Intense Moments
Every human has them. No matter how much work you have done on yourself. No matter how many skills you have. Overwhelming times descend upon us all. It could feel like anger, like panic, like fear. Any kind of intensity. Here’s the ONE question you can ask yourself that can get you closer to...
3 Quick Tips on How to Set and Hold Boundaries
Boundaries are one of the most important ways you care for your relationships and for yourself. It’s a way of being honest about what works for you and what doesn’t. This has nothing to do with being selfish. When you are not clear with others about your limits, the result is usually leading you...
Resource: Blissful Kids, Mindfulness Training
Blissful Kids was created by a Dad who started teaching mindfulness to his son at just 6 years old. I found this website when I was looking for ways to teach my clients mindfulness strategies. I have used this website to support kids, families and teens in understanding how mindfulness works as well as...