Feelings as a source of information have been discounted for so long, we have some catching up to do! There are some pieces of feeling-related advice that have become commonplace like “listen to your heart”, which is progress. But what does that actually mean? Here are some guidelines for how to listen to yourself...
3 Quick Tips on How to Set and Hold Boundaries
Boundaries are one of the most important ways you care for your relationships and for yourself. It’s a way of being honest about what works for you and what doesn’t. This has nothing to do with being selfish. When you are not clear with others about your limits, the result is usually leading you...
What if the Most Potent Invitation to Really Live Came Through Your Relationship?
I want to talk about the post by Sheryl Paul from Conscious Transitions “Not Attracted? Learn to Unblock the Flow of Love” that landed in my inbox on Sunday. I was interested in the title because this is a question people ask in session: It is possible to revitalize and restore attraction in long...
Do This One Thing to Take Good Care of Your Relationships
This week I’m doing something a little bit different! Check out this short video to see what one thing you can do in all your relationships to make them easier and more clear. Let me know what you’ve noticed about doing this one thing....
Are You Using Offense as Defense?
Defenses are kind of tricky because they are usually employed without your conscious consent. They are part of the workings of the unconscious mind to protect you. That doesn’t mean you can’t see them. It just means they can be sneaky! I wanted to write about this because I have been seeing it as...
What Does Self Care Actually Mean? [Hint: it’s not planning a vacation or getting organized]
Buying something nice for yourself, planning a vacation, or getting organized can feel good. And you know there are times when those things barely scratch the surface of what you actually need. These are times where all you want to do is avoid, fix or stop what you are feeling. You want relief. These...
Did You Know This One Thing is a Major Factor in How You Care for Yourself?
Self care has gotten a lot of press lately, which is good. The distinction between being selfish and caring for yourself is an important one. Knowing that your cup needs to be full in order for you to be able to support others is also important. Here’s the one thing that is not being...
HSPs, Empaths and This Important Missing Piece
There is more and more talk about HSPs (Highly Sensitive People) and about empaths. And, I love that. Finally, there is a way to understand what many people have been living. These are people who have long felt there is something wrong with them because they are not like the majority of people. And,...
“You Wouldn’t Act Like That If You Loved Me”
We have all either thought or said this at some point: “you wouldn’t act like this if you loved me.” I have to tell you something: this belief is probably causing unnecessary pain and suffering. There is this prevailing thought that people act one certain way when they love someone. They talk in a...
3 Things That Help When You Are Beyond Stressed
When you are beyond stressed, there are very few self care remedies that you feel like doing. Even if they are going to do wonders for you like exercise or breathing or meditation. Honestly, when I am beyond, I could care less about what is going to be good for me. I just need...